The Passive Aggressive Gift Guide: Gift Ideas for Dudes Who Need a Little Help Taking Care of Themselves

Regular readers of SPY will know that we love gift guides. We’ve got gifts for dads, brothers, grandparents, and even gifts for the impossible to shop for man in your life. But what about those guys in your life that need a little help in the grooming or self-care department? Maybe your little brother is growing his first beard, and no one told him he needs to be using a beard brush to keep his new facial hair from looking (and smelling!) gross. Maybe your beloved boyfriend has some nose or ear hair that’s driving you crazy. Maybe you have a perpetually-single guy friend that needs some help with his grooming or dating game.

How do you shop for those guys? We know it can be rather hard to shop when you have a message that you want to get across without sounding like a total Grinch. And while we don’t advocate shopping with ulterior motives — there’s no replacement for good old-fashioned communication — sometimes drastic measures are required. Well, do we have the perfect roundup for you.

This roundup focuses on passive-aggressively giving gifts that the men in our lives desperately need. With the best grooming gifts, hygiene, relationships and self-care in mind, this gift guide will give you the inspiration you need to finally get those hard truths off of your chest.

Keep reading to find the best passive-aggressive gift ideas to support men’s hygiene and self-care practices. Because a little bit of tough love never killed anyone.


Flepow Ear and Nose Hair Trimmer


At a certain age, most of us grow ear and nose hair. What used to freak us out when we thought about our grandparents now finds its place upon our own appearances. So give the gift of self-care with this affordable ear and nose hair trimmer. Cordless and versatile, it will help him eliminate awkward ear and nose hair.

Flepow ear and nose hair trimmer Buy: FlePow Ear and Nose Hair Trimmer $12.99

Dickies Men’s Dri-tech Moisture Control Crew Socks

Dickies is known for its contributions to the workforce and pop culture as a whole, and their socks are no different. If his feet are sweaty or stinky, these moisture control crew socks will help to minimize both of these issues. With arch compression and support, and ventilated channels for enhanced airflow, these socks are comfortable and durable.

Dickies Dri-tech socks

Buy: Dickies Dri-tech Moisture Control Crew Socks $14.00

The Gentlemen’s Premium Beard Oil


If you have noticed that his beard is losing its “boyish” shine, then The Gentlemen’s Premium Beard Oil could help. This lightweight beard oil is fragrance-free, and it strives to soften and strengthen beard and mustache hair. Also, the Gentlemen’s Premium Beard Oil makes his beard more manageable and less frizzy while eliminating itch and dandruff. For men whose beard isn’t living up to its potential, a good beard oil is one of the best grooming gifts for taming that facial hair.

The Gentlemen's beard oil Buy: The Gentlemen's Premium Beard Oil $19.97

Viking Revolution Luxury Safety Razor Shaving Kit


The “beard-mania” trend happening right now is arguably one of the biggest trends in men’s hygiene. Whether it’s long and bushy or short and patchy, having a beard at any length and showing that you can grow one is a sign of good hygiene and your genes. But, on the other hand, when it becomes too much to manage or when he has more hair on his upper lip than a sea otter — the world’s hairiest animal — then it’s time for a shave. The Viking Revolution Luxury Safety Razor Shaving Kit contains a safety razor with 10 razor blades, safety razor stand, shaving brush, shaving bowl, shaving soap, preshave oil and aftershave balm. This grooming kit has everything your guy needs to look sharp and stay fresh.

Viking revolution shaving kit Buy: Viking Revolution Luxury Safety Razor Shaving Kit $59.88

Hanes Men’s Moccasin Slipper


Reaching back to the Dickies socks above, one way for socks not to look like a rabid pack of moths had a feast is to wear slippers around the house. As we all know, socks aren’t the sturdiest piece of clothing. The Hanes Men’s Moccasin Slipper features thick memory foam cushioning that provides support and comfort.

Hanes mocassin slippers Buy: Hanes Men's Moccasin Slippers $24.65

Lumin Exfoliating Rub for Men


If he’s not using an exfoliator as a part of his skincare routine every now and then, then is his face and body truly clean? For the guy with fairly large blackheads and dull skin, this exfoliating rub is made from charcoal and seeks to remove dead skin cells and reduce the appearance of acne scars and dark spots. The SPY team loves Lumin anti-aging products, and the brand’s skin and hair products are some of our favorite gift ideas for men. The Glabridin-rich licorice root featured in the product also helps to alleviate inflamed skin and improve its color. Basically, it’s one of the best grooming gifts for guys who are starting to show the first signs of aging.

Lumin face rub Buy: Lumin Exfoliating Rub for Men

She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide To Pleasuring a Woman


She’s not smiling because you’re there; she’s smiling because you’re finished. Teach him, or yourself, if you’re a straight guy reading this, the art of pleasing women. Real men know that sex isn’t all about them. This classic sex book by Ian Kerner teaches men how to satisfy women by understanding their body and sexual responses. A fun and informational read, this book will help him understand the inner workings of women’s sexual experiences. Yes, it might seem like a kind of mean-spirited gift for your beau, but how long are you willing to settle for mediocre sex?

She Comes First book Buy: She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman $12.67

Hanes Men’s 5-Pack Cool Dri Boxer Briefs


Nothing kills the mood more than when he has tattered underwear. Women call them granny panties, but men don’t have a name for their ragged, worn out underwear. Sadly, these dudes don’t realize that their gross underwear makes them look like they don’t care about their hygiene or self-image, and that makes a bad impression on anyone they want to be intimate with. Designed with active guys in mind, the Hanes Men’s 5-Pack Cool Dri Boxer Briefs are flexible and comfortable. The stretchy-mesh fabrics lock in moisture, keeping you dry all day.

Hanes Men's Cool Dri Boxer Buy: Hanes Men's 5-Pack Sports-Inspired Cool Dri Boxer Brief $15.99

Dove Men+Care Deodorant Stick


He yawns to put his arm around you, and as soon as he lifts them up, you smell it. Body odor is a sign of him either not wearing enough or wearing the wrong deodorant. Dove Men+Care Deodorant is one of the best antiperspirant deodorants, and it leaves an extra fresh smell that’s sure to make you not scrunch up your face and start asking the mental question, “What is that smell?”

Dove Men+Care Deodorant

AquaSonic Black Series Ultra Whitening Toothbrush


Stained teeth can happen over time, and a touch of bad breath, too. But there are also ways to fix these issues if it’s becoming too much for you. The AquaSonic Black Series Ultra Whitening Toothbrush is a smart toothbrush that has 40,000 vibrations per minute. This toothbrush comes equipped with four different brushing modes and a smart vibrating timer that lets him know when to change his brushing position. Also included are eight Dupont brush heads that last four months each.

AquaSonic Black Series Ultra Whitening Toothbrush Buy: AquaSonic Black Series Ultra Whitening Toothbrush $36.95

The Dating Playbook For Men


Under the best of circumstances, the world of dating can be intimidating. Throw in a global pandemic and it gets even more complicated. Help out your single guy-friends with this book by Andrew Ferebee. This relationship book comes with useful information that interprets the role of dating in terms of numbers. Dating isn’t always easy, but if your friend needs a way to figure out why he’s still struggling to get a date, give him this.

The Dating Playbook For Men: A Proven 7 Step System To Go From Single To The Woman Of Your Dreams Buy: The Dating Playbook For Men: A Proven 7 Step System To Go From Single To The Woman Of Your Dreams $13.96

Fruit of the Loom Men’s Stay Tucked Crew T-Shirt


Fruit of the Loom is known for its men’s underwear. Whether you wear them as is or under your favorite hoodie, these undershirts won’t ride up and will keep him covered. The stay tucked crew t-shirt has a classic fit and is machine washable. They’re also tag-free, which helps with the annoying itching that t-shirts with tags can cause.

Fruit of the Loom Men's Stay Tucked Crew T-Shirt Buy: Fruit of the Loom Men's Stay Tucked Crew T-Shirt $14.98

RUGGED & DAPPER Daily Face Wash and Scrub Cleanser


This brand makes some of the best grooming gifts for guys. This 3-in-1 face wash, exfoliator and toner is perfect for the guy who doesn’t have a skincare routine, which, if that’s the case in 2020, wow. Anyway, this cleanser deep cleans, removes dirt, and eliminates breakouts. It also strips the skin of other impurities without drying it out.

RUGGED & DAPPER Daily Face Wash and Scrub Cleanser Buy: RUGGED & DAPPER Daily Face Wash and Scrub Cleanser $24.95

Meridian Grooming Manscaping Kit


Yes, men should tend to this area, too. It’s a crucial part of hygiene and self-care, yet one that most guys overlook. If your men’s business is sweaty, smelly or tangled in overgrown hair, then he’ll thank you for this great grooming kit from Meridian. Meridian’s manscaping trimmer is a work of art and offers a pinch-free experience. And while we were skeptical of the brand’s deodorant for your balls, we were impressed after trying it out. Even in the skinniest of jeans, Meridian helps guys stay fresh all day long.

Meridian Grooming Maintenance Package

Pavilia Men’s Plush Fleece Robe


Not just for lounging and eating your favorite cereal while watching Saturday morning cartoons, the best bathrobes for men add an element of comfort and leisure to whatever you’re doing. If your man is working too hard, give him the gift of relaxation and self-care with a new bathrobe. A robe is arguably one of the main articles of clothing that exude the essence of self-care. The Pavilia Men’s Plush Fleece Robe is soft and absorbent, perfect after he steps out of the shower on a lazy Sunday. It also comes in a plethora of colors for a rather stylish yet relaxed look.

Pavilia Mens Plush Fleece Robe Buy: Pavilia Plush Fleece Bathrobe $24.99

65+ Gift Ideas for Men in 2020