Do Opposites Really Attract… Or Make You Miserable?! [Video]

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do you think a relationship can work if
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two people have completely different
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morals or values
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oh i no i don’t i don’t think so i think
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that we can have
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i think that we can have different
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values
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that are synergistic
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okay
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and then what happens is we kind of rub
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off on each other in a really lovely way
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if you have someone who really values i
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don’t know
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they’re ambitious
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and you have another person who’s
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um
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who’s all about family or is you know
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very connected to the people in their
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life that they love and they put that
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first then you actually can bring a lot
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to each other
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right now that’s not true if the person
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who’s ambitious doesn’t also have other
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values to accompany that like kindness
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or teamwork or there are certain things
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that can overcome a lot like for example
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the value of teamwork
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can overcome
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a lot of other different values because
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if i realize that there are certain
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things you value
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that are different to me
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but i value your happiness
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then
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i don’t need to have all the same values
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as you i just need to have a spirit of
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teamwork that says i really care about
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your happiness so i’m gonna go out of my
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way to appreciate those values in you
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and help support them
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a wildly different moral compass
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is
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a big problem
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like if you ultimately have a completely
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different sense of
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of right and wrong if you have a
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completely different stance on
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online
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or selfishness
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or
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kindness
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um
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or what’s
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you know what what a good moral code is
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around other people if you’ve got
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someone who doesn’t respect anyone’s
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time
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and you really do you know so they’re
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always late to things and they’re really
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disrespectful of other people in that
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way and and it’s not
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it’s not that you can’t have someone in
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a relationship who’s more punctual than
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the other one but
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if
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if it if someone’s lack of punctuality
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comes from a genuinely disrespectful
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place
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and your punctuality comes from a very
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respectful place
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that’s
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gonna be an issue and you’re always
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gonna find that
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it’s very it’s very hard to operate with
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a friend
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with a partner with a family member
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whose idea of
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what is right and wrong
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differs greatly from yours because
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you’re not
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it’s like starting a board game
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where you have one set of rules
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and i have a different set of rules we
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both started a game of monopoly together
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but in your rule book
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you can pocket hundred dollar bills and
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if i don’t see you that’s your money in
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the game
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right
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that’s your rule but my rule book says
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we have to earn our money in the game
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you can’t just swipe
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money from the box that’s not being used
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to win
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if we’re playing a different game
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we’re going to make each other really
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really unhappy
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so it’s about i do think that a great
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relationship
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starts with two people who have a
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a very close set of rules that they’re
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operating from as they start that game
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